What are barriers?
We all have barriers, those things we face that stop us achieving our full potential and stop us from being the happiest and healthiest we can be. It’s important for us to get to know our barriers and how they limit us so we can work to overcome them.
Barriers can either be external (those placed on us by others) which we may or may not have control over, or internal (those which we place on ourselves) which we definitely have control over.
We can often identify external barriers, it’s a lot easier to notice when others are stopping us from doing something. But when we’re the ones doing it to ourselves it can be a lot harder. Our habits and routines become so ingrained that sometimes we don’t realise the barriers we place on ourselves. We can limit ourselves and make ourselves small through those limitations. It takes a lot of, sometimes uncomfortable work, to identify the barriers we place on ourselves.
- Here are some questions to ask yourself to help identify your barriers:
- Where do I feel stuck?
- What would I like to do that I’m not doing?
- What is stopping me doing something I want to do?
- How could I be happier?
It’s also important to note that sometimes what we think of as external barriers are not really. Sometimes if we look at those barriers more closely we see we are using them as a protective mechanism. ‘I couldn’t do that because of…’, ‘I wish I could do that but I can’t because of…’. Maybe we don’t want to do the thing in the first place or maybe the barrier is actually internal.
Once we’ve identified our barriers we become aware of those limitations, we can acknowledge what we’re currently working with and rubbing up against. It helps us to notice what’s been stopping us from getting to where we want to go. Once we have this clarity we need to take time to work on overcoming these barriers. It may be taking big steps to directly dismantle them. Or it may just be making a subtle shift in how we view our situation. The work to be done depends on what it is and how much it’s affecting you.
If it’s something that has been there for a long time it may take a while to move through the layers which have built up. If it’s something we’ve been conditioned into believing that isn’t true we may be able to change our thinking quickly. Or it may still take a lot of work to change thought patterns.
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